How to get over a break-up

There is no rulebook when it comes to getting over a break-up, even though many of us would love to have one. When a relationship ends, people’s foundations are rattled, leaving them to question their own confidence and self worth. Regardless of who ended the relationship or if it was mutual, there are still feelings of guilt and sadness that swirl around one’s mind. However, going full Carrie Underwood and slashing their tires is not always recommended.

“Nothing in this world is that serious. When things happen to us we think it’s the end of the world when eventually it will be a distant memory. The most important thing to keep in mind while going through a break-up, is that you were fine without them in the first place so you’ll be fine after them,” said Elizabeth Ovalle, 18, a liberal arts major.

Here are some tips from students on the Ammerman Campus at Suffolk County Community College:

1. It’s okay to be sad

“Allow yourself a period of time to be sad. It’s healthy. I recommend two weeks. After that’s over, it’s time to pick yourself up again. This is your life, take it and make it wonderful,” said Emily Capra, 19, an education major.

2. Don’t stay friends – remove them from your contacts

“I recommend cutting off contact with that person and better yourself by seeing your friends and family. There’s always an urge to reach out to the person but don’t. Stay true to yourself and move forward. The most important thing to keep in mind is that everything will be okay and there is a reason for why it had to end,” said Victoria Mienert, 19, a speech pathologist major.

3. Take a break from social media and distract yourself with those who love you

“I get over a break up by being active and not focusing my time on my phone but more on the things that matter like school, friends and family. Being surrounded by loved one’s helps to take your mind off the sadness surrounding a break-up,” said Ovalle.

Break-ups can be a tough roadblock to get through. They take time and effort to move on. Everyone handles their emotions differently. However, those are some tips to help ease the process. 

“When getting over a break-up, it is important to view it as a chance for growth and improvement,” said Capra. “When you’re in a relationship, you sometimes can get used to having a plus one with many of the things you do or need to face in your life. But now it’s your time to conquer it on your own.”